5 Tips For The Girl Who Is Majorly Stressed Out
Are you at a point in life where it’s all getting to be too much?
Maybe you’re managing to meet all the responsibilities you have but even so there’s some areas of your life that you just have to put on the back burner right now. Possibly you’ve found yourself being a little more snappy, a little less rested, and a lot more overwhelmed. You’re trying, you’re doing, but you’re stressed.
Trust me, you’re not the only one.
Also trust me, you need to slow down.
Recently, I learned that if you don’t take a step back and slow down, God will push you a step back and slow you down if need be, and that’s not always so fun.
So how do you manage when life’s unmanageable? I’ve got a few tips below to help you control your stress and balance your life so you don’t feel so insane!
A couple months back, I was going high speed in life and even as much as I tried to manage every area of my life, I just couldn’t give as much attention as I needed to for everything. I let some things go; not prioritizing them due to busyness, and unfortunately one of these things was my spiritual relationship.
Well, regardless of the exhaustion I was feeling, I kept pushing on and kept living with my priorities out of whack. That is until God literally pushed me back and slowed me down.
I still don’t know exactly what happened, but somehow my hip got completely displaced and there was no way I could go high speed at life when I could barely walk. After getting my hip popped back into place and a bit of therapy, I felt better but I recognized what had happened.
God had been waiting for me to get my priorities in order and have Him as my top priority, even in the midst of everything happening in my life. I was not willing to slow down, reassess how I was spending my time, or change the direction I was going, so God did it for me.
And it hurt.
But it worked.
So to save you from having to learn the hard way to listen to God when He says slow down, I’ve got a few tips to help you manage your stress and get your priorities straight:
1. Figure Out Your Purpose
I know you don’t have much time to spare right now, but trust me this is worth a few minutes. I want you to look at every area of your life right now and ask the following questions:
- Is what I’m doing purposeful?
- What is my purpose in doing this?
- Is my purpose in this for Christ or for the world?
- Is this a good use of my time?
By asking these questions over what you’ve got going on in your life, you’ll be able to figure out what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. Once you figure that out, you’ll be able to weed out things you’ve taken on that aren’t leading you towards fulfilling your purpose in Christ. Every aspect of your life should be approached with the intent of glorifying God and living out His will through you. If something you’re taking part in is not glorifying Christ, or getting in the way of glorifying Christ – stop doing it!
2. Get Your Priorities Straight
I understand you have a lot going on between school, work, relationships, health, and a hundred other little things but each day you need to be taking time and setting it aside for God.
John 15:5 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.”
Whatever you’ve got going on today, if you aren’t letting God be in it and in control of it, it will amount to nothing! We are nothing without God so it is so vital that we come to Him each day and ask Him to guide us!
If you think of your priority pyramid, God should be at the top and everything else should trickle down under Him. Make sure you aren’t bumping God out of that top spot for something or someone else. Keep God the number one priority you have by investing in that relationship through prayer and devotion daily.
3. Take a Day Off
Work is important but rest is important too. You need to stop running yourself so thin that you’re too exhausted to function by the end of each day. We are called to live for and work for Christ but if we don’t take time to rest, nourish, and care for our physical and spiritual health we can’t be as effective for Christ! Even Jesus took some time away to rest and refresh Himself in the Lord.
Mark 6: 31-32 “Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.” So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place.”
Take a day off, sleep in, relax, spend time with God. You need to rest and relax at times so when you’re working, you can be most effective for God.
4. Stop Saying Yes to Everything
I’m not sure if any of you are this way, but I’m a chronic volunteer. I always sign up, say yes, take on more than I have time for. Normally, it’s for good things, even Godly things, but this habit results in me taking on more than I can handle. God instructs us to think before we speak, allow enough time for Him, and not to fill our schedules with things that take us away from Him. Stop saying yes on a whim and start saying “let me think and pray about it and get back to you”.
Taking time to make decisions will allow you to ask God if what you’re considering is His will or not. Plus, taking time to look at your schedule and consider the option, will allow you to decided if you truly have the time for this or if it’s just going to be an additional stressor.
Matthew 5:37 “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ be ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one. “
5. Make Plans for the Unplanned
I love to plan but one of the top pieces of advice I can give you is to plan for the unplanned. Nothing ever goes like we think it is going to, so stop stressing when it doesn’t! Learn to give up control to God and let Him guide. When we rest in knowing His perfect will will happen in our lives, we don’t need to stress over what’s to come! Hand everything over to God in prayer and stop sweating the small stuff. He’s already got it – now you just need to give it to Him!
Philippians 4:7 “Don’t worry about anything, but pray about everything. With thankful hearts offer up your prayers and requests to God.”
So there it is, 5 tips to help you stop stressing and start resting. Girls I want to encourage you not to hesitate to take a day of rest, slow down, and realigning your priorities. If you want to be effective for God you can’t neglect investing in God!