• Rachel Spack


Just the other day I had a mini meltdown over life.

In the midst of the earth shattering things going on (which in all reality weren’t that big or crazy) I felt like I was just so overwhelmed and didn’t know what to do – so, I called my fiance.

Now you might be saying – so what?

But here’s why I’m telling you this.

I’ve noticed lately that when I have a problem happening or something goes wrong my first instinct has become to pick up my phone and call my fiance.

And while I’m happy that as we approach marriage we have truly grown to be best friends and share with one another, I’ve started to feel a bit (actually like a whole lot) convicted about this.

A few years back I remember reading a book called Gospel Treason and I couldn’t tell you how many books I’ve read since then but this particular book – it just won’t stop popping in my head lately! (darn book) Basically a quick summary of the book is it talks about idols and calls the reader out to look at all the hidden idols they might have. At the time it was a shocking read for me – I didn’t know I had so many idols and I realized I had some serious cleaning up to do in my life.

See, I remember this book calling out idols that we sneakily cover up or ignore and making me recognize them – things like work, money, phones, media, people, relationships, myself, my body.

And now here we are a few years later and this books message is STILL hitting me because I’ve realized my life habits need some major changing again. The thing is my newly formed habit of reaching out to the person I trust when I’m in crisis has become a sin because I’ve begun to idolize them.

Now you might think I’m being a little much, a tad dramatic, going overboard, but I want to share something to think about with you. Today I sat down and made a list of who I turn to first when a variety of things happen in my life and here were the results:

- something happy – my fiance

- something exciting – my fiance

- something scary – my fiance

- something sad – my fiance

- a big change – my fiance

- when I’m bored – my fiance (or my phone if he’s busy actually having a life)

- when I have a big decision to make – my fiance

- when I’m angry – my fiance (unless we’re fighting each other then I’m just a wreck)

- when I’m nervous – my fiance

- when I need advice – my fiance

And so on….

The point is, I’ve made a habit, without even realizing it, of treating my fiance like God.

The Bible repeatedly reinforces to us that in any times – joy or trial – we are to call on God before anyone else.

"The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth. He fulfills the desire of those who fear him, he also hears their cry and saves them." Psalm 145:18-19

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus “ Phillipians 4:6-7

You see, this habit I’ve made is bad for a few reasons. First it is dishonoring to God and sinful – which is enough of a reason itself to stop doing it. Secondly, treating anyone in a relationship like they’re God is always going to cause problems because they’re never going to be able to live up to that expectation. So I’m twofold causing problems in my relationship with God and my fiance – my two greatest loves – by not prioritizing my relationships in a healthy God honoring way.

The truth is though, I think this bad habit I’ve formed isn’t all that rare. I think often in relationships it’s easy for us as humans to start to turn to someone into a “God” to us. You might think that sounds ridiculous, but once again, I’d point you back to the little who do I turn to chart I put above and would ask you – who do you turn to? A friend, parent, sibling, husband, boyfriend, role model, author, or anyone else??

Idols are a tricky thing because they hide from us and sneak into our lives without us even realizing, yet they can and do cause MASSIVE problems.

1 Corinthians 10:14 says it short and simple: “Therefore, my dear friends, flee from idolatry.”Although there are many passages in the Bible addressing idols this one is one of my favorites because it is so to the point. It’s simple, if you have idols, turn away from them.

Whoa now, does that mean I need to break things off with my fiancé, friends, parents, whoever else? No! (Do you think I’m crazy??)

But this does mean that if we’re struggling with idolizing another person we need to make a conscious effort to go to God FIRST. That doesn’t mean it’s wrong to turn to the people we trust for advice or a listening ear but we should be going to God first with everything that happens in our life.

In times of joy – we should be thanking God and then sharing the happy news

In times of trial – we should be praying for strength and then sharing

In times of anger – we should be asking God for peace and wisdom and then speaking

In times of sadness – we should be asking God for encouragement and uplifting and then sharing with others

In times of fear or change – we should be asking God for wisdom and then asking others

So today I’m challenging you to join me in making God your number one, in recognizing some hiding idols you might have and turning from them, and in seeking God’s truth and wisdom above anyone else.

Are you in for the challenge?

- Rachel

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