To The Girl Trying To Please Everyone
Are you someone who worries about what people think of you?
You wonder if they like you, what they’re thinking, and if they’ll say good or bad things about you to others.
Or are you someone who has given up caring about what other people think?
Your life is your life and you’re going to do what you want, when you want, how you want, and you couldn’t care less what other people think.
Well here’s some truth about reputation:
I’m not sure how many of you know that my dad is a pastor. Now, that sounds weird for me to say because in my eyes my dad was always just my dad, but to other people he was seen as a pastor. Inevitably, that makes me a pastor’s daughter – and that title normally comes with some kind of attached reputation.
See, being a “pastor’s daughter” growing up, I knew people were watching the way I acted, the way I talked, the way I carried myself and that all of those things reflected back on my family. If my dad was literally preaching to hundreds of people how they should live and then I was living opposite to how he was preaching, it would look pretty hypocritical.
Now, according to the labels of society, the pastor’s daughter is normally either the good girl prude or wild and rebellious. If you want examples, just look up how many songs are called “Preacher’s Daughter”!
Well, during my high school years to say that I became obsessed with maintaining a good girl reputation would be putting it lightly. At the time, everything I did or didn’t do was decided based on how it would reflect on my reputation. Eventually, living with the constant pressure of being the perfect good girl and feeling like everyone was watching, got overwhelming for me.
By the time I reached college I felt exhausted constantly trying to maintain my reputation and I gave up. Now, I don’t have any crazy I went off the deep end and became a total party girl stories for you, but I do have some truth that helped me realize my reputation wasn’t the most important thing in the world.
I spent years worrying about the way I looked to others instead of investing myself in living for Christ and I realized I wrongly invested myself in looking like a “good girl” instead of looking like Christ.
Here’s the truth:
Reputation is important and having a good reputation is important too but what’s most important is a relationship with Christ.
Proverbs 22:1 “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.”
Yes, your reputation matters, but when you live for and like Christ, your reputation will be a good reputation without you having to worry about it.
1 Peter 2:21 “To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps.”
If we look back at Jesus’s time on earth and His reputation we can learn a WHOLE LOT. When Jesus’s was on the earth, He had a lot of people that didn’t like Him. In fact, He was even killed by people who didn’t like Him.
John 19:3 “and they began to come up to Him and say, “Hail Kind of the Jews!” and to give Him slaps in the face.”
Jesus didn’t spend His time on the earth concerned about His reputation and everyone liking Him or thinking He was a good guy. Jesus spent His time on the earth sharing and living the truth. He loved and shared the truth with the poor and the rich and everyone in-between. He had people come alongside Him to help share the message who were not the well-known and well-liked men of society. He shared the truth and spent time with the outcasts of society.
Matthew 8:3 “Jesus stretched out His hand and touched him, saying, "I am willing; be cleansed." And immediately his leprosy was cleansed.”
Jesus wasn’t on earth to concern Himself with his image. Jesus was on earth to share the gospel in love.
So if you’re worried about your reputation, obsessing over what other people think, or if you’ve given up on caring:
Stop living for people and start living for Christ
Start sharing your faith including your struggles, and hardships, and weaknesses. Don’t concern yourself with looking like a perfect Christian because none of us are perfect Christians and sharing those struggles and hardships can help us to learn and grow and relate to others.
If I’ve learned anything over the past few years its that your reputation does not define you but your relationship with Christ does.
So lets all start investing our self and our relationship with Jesus today.