To The Girl Who Feels Like Her Forever Will Never Come
Sometimes it’s hard to imagine that someday it will be your turn. Someday, you’ll finally get to have a pretty wedding and have a husband that’s all yours.
Some day’s it’s easier just to believe it’s never going to happen, and give up on the idea of forever.
It’s not easy to be patient while waiting on love.
Now, I’d like to share a little bit about myself with you because I think that maybe it will help us understand each other better.
I have had an unconventional relationship to say the least. Never would I have thought that the boy I started to “date” (and by date I mean chaperoned dinner and rented movies at my house) at age 15 would be the man I plan to marry. But it just goes to prove that God really does have a unique plan for each of us.
Well a year after we started dating, my boyfriend told me he was going to marry me and you better believe that by the next day I had already planned out my entire Pinterest dream wedding and was ready to book venues. A little overboard? Maybe. But can you blame me?
Well I’ve still been waiting to call and book those venues and it’s been six years.
To say that I’ve grown impatient would be an understatement. I know that we’re still young, I know that our relationship has not been “normal”, and I know that someday, it will finally be my turn, but some days it just feels like it’s never going to happen.
So why do I tell you all this? Because I get it! Whether you’ve been waiting on forever with the man of your dreams or if you’re questioning, is there even a man for me? It’s hard to be patient in the wait and it’s hard to let God’s timing play out.
So here’s some truth I want to share with all of you that has helped me to learn that the journey can be just as beautiful as the destination.
1. You’re Forever Hasn’t Come Yet Because It’s Not Time Yet
To every thing there is a season,
and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate;
A time of war, and a time of peace.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Sometimes God doesn’t say stop or go, sometimes He says wait.
Why? God is God and He knows how every single moment of your life is going to go. Stop trying to figure it all out, plan it all out, and control it – just let God’s timing work things out the way it’s supposed to. Wouldn’t you rather let the One Who Knows All have control of your life path, instead of you trying to drive blindly? God has His reasons for saying wait, so don’t question the wait, just be content in it.
2. God Is Strengthening Your Character While You Wait
“More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”
So maybe it’s a far stretch to say you’re suffering, but you’re certainly longing. Longing for love, longing for companionship, longing for forever. What God tells us though, is that while we wait, while we long and suffer, He is growing us and making us better. Yes, waiting just stinks sometimes, but I know I would rather have to wait a little longer, if it means I’ll be the best version of myself I can be for my someday husband.
Thrive in the wait for forever by growing in Christ and character so when someday comes, you’ll be the best you.
3. Patience Will Grow Passion and Appreciation Genesis 29: 25-27
"Jacob confronted Laban, “What have you done to me? Didn’t I work all this time for the hand of Rachel? Why did you cheat me?”
“We don’t do it that way in our country,” said Laban. “We don’t marry off the younger daughter before the older. Enjoy your week of honeymoon, and then we’ll give you the other one also. But it will cost you another seven years of work.”
In Genesis 29 the Story of Jacob and Rachel is told. Jacob worked 7 years for Rachel’s hand in marriage, only to be fooled into marrying her sister instead. After realizing this Jacob told Rachel’s father he still wanted to marry Rachel. Rachel’s fathers conditions? Work another 7 years for her. 14 years in total Jacob worked for Rachel. He loved her, he wanted her, and he worked for her. Imagine how loved, how appreciated, and how special you would feel if a man worked 14 years to earn you.
Waiting on your forever can help you to appreciate the man that you will someday have forever with. It will help you to value and cherish your relationship more. Recognize that one-day when your forever comes, God will be giving you one of the deepest desires of your heart, and that’s something worth appreciating.
So if you’re the girl who feels like her forever will never come, practice patience, grow in character, and appreciate the pursuit.
Today, celebrate the wait because your forever will be here before you know it.